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Welcome New Mama

Dear Mama.

Today is a special day. It is your birthday. The crossing over the threshold. A new role. A new life. A new initiation. You are Mother.

Please don’t miss the sacredness of this day.

Your baby has chosen you. Yes, you!

You, with the swollen breasts, sore body and heart that has just been broken open. It’s ok. You don’t know what to do. It feels so scary. It feels so beautiful. It feels so perfect. You are as close to Spirit as you can get right now. Inhale the smell of pure Love. In your arms.

Your baby has chosen you. Yes, you!

You, with the crooked nose and matty hair. You, with the thighs that are too big. You, with the blemishes on your skin.

Your baby doesn’t care. Your baby only sees your beauty. Your baby only sees the love that is bursting from your heart. Treasure the vulnerability you are feeling right now. Your greatest strength lies there.

Your baby has chosen you. Yes, you!

You, with the insecurities and bad moods. You, with the PMS. You, with the fear of failure. You, who gets things wrong. You, who shouts at people and eats ice cream in the middle of the night.

Your baby doesn’t care. Your baby only sees your beauty. Your baby only sees the love that is bursting from your heart. Treasure the vulnerability you are feeling right now. Your greatest strength lies there.

Your baby has chosen you. Yes, you!

You, with the strength of the Great Mother flowing through your veins. You, with all the Mothers before you living inside you. You, with the love of Mother Mary. You, with the compassion of Quan Yin. You, with the creativity of Saraswati. You, with the fierceness of Durga.

You. Beautiful Mother. Sacred, blessed Woman. The keeper of life.

I bow to you, new Mother. I believe in you. You are chosen to raise this child. Let Love guide you and you cannot fail.

Blessings to you on this new day.

The day a new Mother is born.


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Xavier turns four. And some birthday traditions.

Xavier has turned four. He is the most delightful little boy. Sweet, funny and full of laughs.

I thought I would share a few photos and some of our family traditions when it comes to birthdays.

We always tell a special birthday story the night before. We tell a Steiner inspired story about a bird coming out of an egg, running down a hill and greeting his new family. I love The Birthday Book – celebrations for everyone, by Druitt, Fynes-Clinton and Rowling for lovely Steiner inspired ideas. I tell our birthday story from there and gather some other inspiration from there too.

In the morning, the children find that there are ribbons hanging form their door. This year, Xavier had four ribbons hanging. He also got to jump out of bed four times and had four kisses when waking up.


We have a birthday table set up. I made a birthday bunting a few years ago. This always goes up, for every member of the family. We put a special birthday crown on the person. What is funny about the crown, is that it is really scratchy, so the birthday person only manages to wear it for a photo and then takes it off!

My children go to a Montessori school, which has it’s own traditions too.

A birthday candle is lit and the child holds a globe. As the class sings, the child walks around the candle, holding the globe. The candle represents the sun. The child walks around the sun just once and then the family shares a photo (or photos) of the child in that year of their life.


So, Xavier got to travel around the sun four times! He was too scared to go by himself, I had to go with him. I found this really poetic, as he is still so very attached to me. He still climbs into my bed at night and always wants me to feed him, dress him and read him stories. His dad is just not good enough for that, yet!

Our family also bakes and decorates a cake. This year, I baked a cake and Annie and Xavier decorated it. It was a beautiful mess and I loved it!


And to top off our traditions, we always do a family photo with the cake. I got this tradition from my mother in law. I always see photos of Sohail as a boy, in front of the birthday cake with the whole family. I think it is a lovely way to mark the occasion and to see everyone growing over the years.


We also cut the cake with the knife that Sohail and I used for our wedding. The first bite always goes to the birthday child (or adult).

And there you have it, our birthday traditions. I love the familiarity in them and how it reduces stress, since everyone knows what to expect each year. It also saves a lot of money. We don’t feel that there is a need to have expensive, themed cakes and decorations. Our family being together is the most important to us.

Do you have any family traditions? I would love to hear them.

Blessings to you.

By the way, I just found this beautiful, 2 minute video, peeking inside a Montessori classroom. Have a look, I guarantee you will be inspired.